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Single Motherhood By Choice
single mother by choice (smbc or smc) is a woman who chooses to become a mother on her own without a partner.
Said woman may choose this path towards motherhood for a variety of personal reasons: a decline in fertility, waiting for the right partner to come along is not an option, time sensitive medical treatment, or a strong desire to be a mother regardless of her relationship status. The decision to become a SMC comes with both its rewards and challenges!
EXPLORING MY OPTIONS
GATHERING SUPPORT
Who is a single mother by choice?
Raising a child as a single mother by choice can feel like the weight of the world on your shoulders. Even though you made a conscious decision to do this on your own, it can still be challenging to handle everything on your own. It really does take a village, for both mother and child. This is where I come in! One hour a week of dedicated time to unpack your feelings, address pressing anxieties or doubts, and explore practical tools to keep it together in those trying times in the middle of the night when you feel most alone. In collaboration, we can work together to create a unapologetically.
I thought I would have more support, but now that baby is here everyone has disappeared.
I worry about being judged by my family and friends about my decision to be a SMC.
My family is not open to the idea of me being a SMC and I need someone to talk to about it.
I'm having doubts about becoming a SMC. The cost alone is making me think twice about going through with this.
I’ve always wanted to be a mom but I’m TIREDT of having disappointment after disappointment with people I match with on the apps. I want to start a family, what are my options?
How do I choose a donor? Where do I find a Black donor? Are there any Black donors available?
I'm feeling lonely in this journey of motherhood. How do I connect with other mama’s who look like me and understand my experience?
Some thoughts that may be swirling in your mind as you come to terms with your decision to become a single mama by choice:
Since I don’t have a partner, who will be my support when I deliver?
My baby is here! Now what? What tf have I gotten myself in to!?
The kids at school as why you don’t have a daddy, how do I explain to my child that all families are different and that’s okay?
Will it be harder to get in to a serious relationship now that I am a SMC?
I want a child, but I don't want to give up all the things in my life I enjoy.
People tell me I did this to myself so stop complaining... but, it's HELLA hard in moments that having an extra set of hands would come in handy!
Will my child to grow up hating me because they don't have what society says is a "traditional" family?
I really need to talk to someone who actually gets it, ya know?
Why therapy for SMBC?
As a single mother by choice, you deserve to have all the support you need in place to be there for your little ones as well we yourself. Between navigating being a new mom, balancing returning to work and childcare, and managing everything on your own, it can feel never-ending at times. Seeking therapy is a proactive step toward ensuring your well-being and your child's. It's a sign of strength to recognize when you need support and actively seek ways to navigate challenges. Therapy can be a valuable tool in your journey of single motherhood, helping you find balance, manage stress, and create a positive environment for yourself and your child.
As a therapist who specializes in supporting mamas in different stages of motherhood, I am here to help you rise to the challenges of motherhood while maintaining your sanity. Whether you're struggling with postpartum symptoms, feeling touched out by daily breastfeeding sessions, or just need an outlet to talk about your feelings and concerns, therapy can be that sweet spot where you can let it all out and learn the necessary tools to thrive not just survive.
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